Getting your ex back is now the prime concern in your life. You don’t care about anything else nor do you think about anything else. How can I get my ex back? What must I do in order to get my ex back? I want my ex back and will do anything for it to happen!
The first thing that you must do, in order to get your ex back, is to disappear from their life completely. That’s right, I said disappear completely. Cut off all contact with your ex! I know you must be wondering, “How can I get my ex back by disappearing from their lives”? It’s because, while it sounds corny, absence does make the heart grow fonder. Besides, at this point, you are probably coming off as pretty desperate. Clingy. Needy. Trust me, your ex can sense the desparation, and your ex will want no part of that. Neediness, desperation, and clinginess are not attractive traits.
Another way this will help get your ex back is because it is probably going to make them think of you more often than if you were always available to them. Those thoughts are also going to be more loving than if your fights and arguments are fresh in their minds. Yes, they will remember all of the cute little things about you that they fell in love with, and wouldn’t you rather they think this way of you than as some sort of desperate, needy, clingy cry-baby of a stalker? Sure you would.
While no contact gives you the chance to improve the way your are thought of by your ex, but it also gives your ex a chance to miss you, and all of the things that make you wonderful. I know it’s like a reflex to beg and plead for your ex to come back but this will only make their resolve that much stronger.
Some people make excuses to not employ the no contact principle. They say, “But what if he or she forgets me”? This is absolutely ridiculous. Have you forgotten anyone that was an important part of your life? Exactly. As a matter of fact, if you think about it, I’ll bet you often remember people from your past all the time that had no significant impact on your life. Right?
Finally, another thing that no contact does for you, is it makes the mystery a key tool in winning back your ex. It’s hard to have attraction for someone if you can predict their every move. If the ex isn’t hearing from you, their mind is sure to wonder, and wander. The ex will start having visions of you having the time of your life with some hot babe! This will make them come after you.
Though getting your ex back is a process, you have just learned the first and most important step of all of them.