The first thing that you must do, in order to get your ex back, is to disappear from their life completely. That’s right, I said disappear completely.  Cut off all contact with your ex!   I know you must be wondering, “How can I get my ex back by disappearing from their lives”?  It’s because, while it sounds corny, absence does make the heart grow fonder.  Besides, at this point, you are probably coming off as pretty desperate. Clingy. Needy.  Trust me, your ex can sense the desparation, and your ex will want no part of that.  Neediness, desperation, and clinginess are not attractive traits. 

Another way this will help get your ex back is because it is probably going to make them think of you more often than if you were always available to them. Those thoughts are also going to be more loving than if your fights and arguments are fresh in their minds. Yes, they will remember all of the cute little things about you that they fell in love with, and wouldn’t you rather they think this way of you than as some sort of desperate, needy, clingy cry-baby of a stalker? Sure you would. 

While no contact gives you the chance to improve the way your are thought of  by your ex, but it also gives your ex a chance to miss you, and all of the things that make you wonderful.  I know it’s like a reflex to beg and plead for your ex to come back but this will only make their resolve that much stronger. 

Some people make excuses to not employ the no contact principle.  They say, “But what if he or she forgets me”?  This is absolutely ridiculous.  Have you forgotten anyone that was an important part of your life?  Exactly.  As a matter of fact, if you think about it, I’ll bet you often remember people from your past all the time that had no significant impact on your life.  Right? 

Finally, another thing that no contact does for you, is it makes the mystery a key tool in winning back your ex.  It’s hard to have attraction for someone if you can predict their every move.  If the ex isn’t hearing from you, their mind is sure to wonder, and wander.  The ex will start having visions of you having the time of your life with some hot babe! This will make them come after you. 

Though getting your ex back is a process, you have just learned the first and most important step of all of them.

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The good news is that the principles behind getting your ex back, whether in person or in a long distance relationship, will work just the same. This question was recently asked: “How is no contact going to help me get my ex back if I wasn’t there in person”? and the answer is the same as if you were in person.

No contact is something that effects the dumpers in an emotional way. Regardless if you have been in close physical proximity to the person, over time, you develop a deep, and meaningful, emotional bond to your ex. You are an element of support for that person. People get attached, or addicted if you will, to that kind of support. When you are in “no contact” mode with your ex, that support is gone, and they WILL come to miss it like crazy. Just the same as if you were there in person.

For instance, if you live away from home and you lean on your family for emotional support during trying times, how would you feel if you no longer had access to that support? Would you miss it? You bet you would. You would miss it BIG TIME!

So don’t worry about the circumstances of your situation. The solutions that are found in the best “get your ex back” ebooks will work regardless.

So if you want your ex back, then one of the things we must do to make them come back, is to re-create the attraction they felt in the first place. A lot has changed since you first met your ex. I’ll bet that, when you met your ex, you were a confident person that felt good about yourself and your life. You didn’t act like a whiney, needy, desperate cry-baby. You didn’t have to, nor did you feel the urge, to ask “Are you okay” or “Is something wrong” every five seconds. I’m sure you also didn’t need reassurance about your status in the relationship all the time either. No, I think back then, you seemed like an entirely different person than what you have become.

The good news is that this is something that can be fixed. If you are truly wanting your ex back, then I’m sure you are following rule number one: No contact. This is a very important rule that you must follow. Being in no contact allows your ex the chance to forget about your whining, begging, pleading, and otherwise whimpy ways. When you do have contact with your ex again, you are going to be just like the person they fell in love with the first time around.

You are going to be confident, you are going to be independent, and you are going to have that radiant personality that they just cant seem to resist. In order to do this, you are going to take some crash courses on how to create attraction.

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