One of the worst feelings in the world is being heartbroken. Having a broken heart, and a case of the holiday blues, is twice as tough. It’s hard enough to live day-to-day with that powerful feeling of loneliness, but to make matters worse, you have no one special to share any holiday cheer with. Here is a list of some things you can do to help alleviate the frustration and stay on course to heal your heart.
1. Do NOT feel obligated to be all happy and cheery. Just because it’s the holidays doesn’t mean you’re required to act like you are excited about it. Accept your feelings as they are. If you feel down, then that’s ok, just accept those feelings. Remember, they’re only feelings, and don’t define who you are.
2. Limit the amount of spiked egg nog you drink. Since alcohol is a depressant, and you are already depressed enough, there’s no reason to compound the problem.
3. Don’t place unfair expectations on anyone, including yourself. If you’re expecting a gift, a call, or an email from the ex, then I would suggest you do your best to clear that thought out of your head. Your ex may or may not meet your expectations, but you have to remember, that is something you can’t control. You only need to worry about what you can, and you can control your expectation.
To have a more enjoyable holiday this year, try not caring. Not caring, in a loving way, simply means you’re not dependent on another’s behavior to be happy, or at peace. When you don’t care you won’t take their behavior personally because you realize that how they act has NOTHING to with you.
Not caring doesn’t require being distant or unfeeling. You can choose love – being expansive, open , accepting, and warm – and not to get hooked into the trap of holiday drama by not caring. Try not caring this holiday season. I guarantee you’ll feel a lot better!
