I know the pitfalls of having a broken heart, and how hard it is when you are healing from a broken heart, and I have all of the empathy in the world for you. I know the pain, uncertainty, anger, bitterness, and all of the emotions associated with what you are now going through. Healing from a broken heart is a long and bumpy road.
You may wonder how long you must go through this before you feel you are truly “over it”, and the only answer to that, is as long as you allow yourself to. You have the power to get out there and live your life, just as you did before you ever met your ex. Hopefully, thanks to this new experience, you will be living an even better life than you had. I have high hopes that you will take your new found knowledge from your broken heart, and somehow find a way to apply it to your life.
Remember, here is a quick list of things for you to do, to ensure a speedy recovery from your broken heart, and help you along to a more meaningful and fulfilling life:
1. Accept that the relationship you had is over. You may be able to get your ex back, but the relationship you’ve come to know – as you know it – is over. It wasn’t working as it was. If you get back with your ex, it will have to be a new relationship in order to have a chance to flourish.
2. No contact is essential. It is just not possible for you to gain any kind of perspective about the relationship while maintaining an emotional investment in it. Your first priority is to change how you feel right now. You cannot feel great about yourself or your ex if you are emotionally drained, i.e., bitter, angry, hurt, jealous, disappointed, etc…
3. Take care of your health. Sitting around the house, feeling sorry for yourself, daydreaming about the way you wish things had worked out will not make it so. All you will do is continue to feel bad, get fat, and lose time out of your life. Take this opportunity to re-invent yourself. Exercise regularly, create a more healthy diet, meditate, and make getting a good night’s sleep a priority. All of these things will contribute to you feeling fabulous!
4. Be kind to yourself. Stop taking the blame for the relationships failure. Be more mindful of how you speak to yourself, and make a conscious effort to be more forgiving and positive. You are a special, beautiful, and unique person. It’s time you begin treating yourself in that way. Reward yourself regularly for being such a great and awesome person. You deserve it!
5. Get out there and date! Whether you go back out with your ex, or you find somebody new, it is essential that you get out of the house and shake your groove thing. You will never win in this game of love unless you’re actually playing an active role. The world is full of wonderful and unique people that are just dying to meet you. Chances are good that they’ll never meet you while you are holed up at home, moping over someone that doesn’t deserve you anyway. Allow yourself the chance to be wined and dined.
6. Be cautious of the dreaded rebound. Just because I suggest you get out there and date, that doesn’t mean I think it’s a good idea to just throw caution to the wind. Be smart about it. You can end up right back where you are or put someone else in the shoes you fill right now. That’s not a good spot. By all means have fun. Just don’t do it at the expense of anyone’s heart. Yours or someone else’s.
I wish you the best in love, best in life, best in all.
